Six, I'm so sorry you are here. Your story is painful to read.
Originally Posted By: rd500
can I just say the most important thing right now is to step back from what your H is doing and focus on you and the kids
I'm going to stress this bit again , focus on you and the kids , accept H is gone and while that is incredibly tough to do it really needs to be done for you to deal with your reality.
H doesn't matter right now , all the matters is S9 , your other children and you
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You need to forget about pretty much everything else in your life and focus on those kids, V has rightly pointed out you are their one stabilizing force. Leave H to himself, you can't change him anyway. Don't even waste time pointing out to your kids that H is making bad choices, they know that. Save your breath for how much you love them and how much you are there for them. Pare down that volunteer schedule so you really can be. Am I getting my point through yet? Give up anything and everything to focus on those kids for the time being, it's your job to make sure they are all OK, including the one you are carrying. I know you want to save your M, but you need to save your kids first. Keep this simple for a while.
I don't come over to Newcomers much, but I'll try to come check on you. Please, please, please come look for my thread in Surviving the Big D if you need to find me. Breathe. You can do this, Six. RD is correct, you'll be OK.
