Try to relax. Breathe. I know this anger all too well. Contacting OW will do you, or your situation, no good. Write about your anger here. Re-read the detachment threads. I feel your pain. Hang in there and keep posting.
Me-40's W- 40's Married 22, Together 29 BD#1- 6/15 W needs space BD#2- OM confirmed PA 1/8/16 Still both home, but not for long