Just read up on your musings on the other thread. As job said all you listed, well it's normal ... All that coulda woulda shoulda... Nothing we could do and I think you know this, the crisis was all wrapped up tightly and any normal sane person would not have seen it coming, maybe now I would have some intense questions for a potential new partner and no doubt they would run for the hills and label me psycho... Lol. That being said I don't think there is much a LBS can do to stop a D if the MLCr is hellbent on going that route. Keep in mine he is doing this thinking it's the fast track to happiness this ending his pain, he has to experience this and will most likely face the reality it wasn't and he alienated the one person who truly cares for him as you obviously do.
I've been reading a bit... Ok... A lot and so many of our stories there is not much positive for such a long time it's frustrating. Truth is nothing we can do but put ourselves back together and allow them to bottom out, maybe then they do the work we were forced to do, the blessing/curse of this is we have a 2-3 year head start and frankly our issues are a bit easier to address.
I've admired the way you've walked your journey, also admired the way you help so many people here, your a gold nugget in the cave that you never asked to be in. Keep your chin up, know he has to go down this road on his own... My hopes are he will arrive at that Doh moment before its to late.
