The wayward doesn't have the skillset to pursue, for example. Do you do things for the wayward, showing a change, showing love in actions?
It is really hard for me to accept that a female wouldn't know how to let the man realize she wants him. Listen, I don't know if any woman is as bad as I have been about not pursuing my H. I always told him that it was nature for men to pursue b/c that's how God created the male. He created the woman to be the responder. Actually, women do pursue, especially in this day & time. Traditionally, they weren't quite so bold about it. It was more in the form of flirting, acting helpless, manipulation, or some type of silliness.
To me, I see every little girl with the natural instincts to flirt and (excuse this expression) wrap a man around her little finger. Her first? Her daddy, grandfather, uncles, etc. She learns just how to make him melt at her little smile, her pleas, her pouts, and tears, etc...... and as she gets older, she branches out. (I hope people can see my sense of humor in this and don't make it something it's not.) What I'm trying to say is that men have their ways of pursuing and women have their way. Her way may come in flirtations or giving clues/hints (which most men total miss) but she will do something if no more than smile and look longingly into his eyes. Remember, the sexes are quite different from each other. And I don't just mean in their body parts.
As for men catering to a woman throughout her life? That's really a not-so-good situation. IMO, she becomes spoiled (even those who act sweet), usually self-centered, and a manipulator of men. She may have more male friends than females, b/c the other women see through her. It makes the LBH's job a lot tougher. If her daddy, her past boyfriends, and any other man jumped through hoops of fire to get the princess whatever she wanted......then expect to see her hold on to her sense of entitlement. However, the man who can remove her from her royal throne, will forever have her admiration. Oh, not at first maybe, and she might not let him know for ages, but he'll have it. Although she may act mad at first, she'll want that guy she can't wrap around her little finger so easily. (Notice I said "easily").
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Actually, women 
And I don't just mean in their body parts. 