You need to be the rock for your kids, and the MOST important thing you can do for them is to model optimism and positivity.
If you are crying and crumbling, they will feel like the world is coming to an end.
If you model strength, keep their lives constant, engage them in fun stuff, show that you are strong and moving forward.....they can see themselves doing the same.
My kids were much older when my ex left and we divorced - 17-22 - but still very affected by the divorce. But one thing they have told me is how impressed they were with how I picked up and moved on. (I learned to play the drums and 53 and now I play in a punk rock band ).
Your kids need to know that it's NOT the end of the world and that you both still love them.
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