Hi RD, yes I think that is a useful reminder of how much time we can spend analysing every little interaction with our WAS for hope of this or that. But, the fact remains, it would take a big shift to change our current course and in your sitch as in many of ours that hasn't happened yet. I agree with others - your W does seem very low in so many aspects of her life - and yet seems unable to do anything useful about it.

As you say, this week things may have been magnified by her feeling unwell. But, from your side RD, you seem very steady and have it all together - that's important, whatever your W may be doing. Did you think some more about your house plans? At one stage, you were talking about a possible move??

Take care xx

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus