2016 a New Year - getting out of my own fog

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Hi Irish- I want to wish you the best for tomorrow. I won't say "good luck" as I think that infers depending on chance and I think you need to be strategic here.

Cali has given you excellent advice, as he always does. Ultimately you're dealing with a breach of contract here and it is necessary to protect your and your daughters' interests.

I haven't commented much on your thread. I do read along and I think you are a pillar to your daughters. Your situation is particularly heartbreaking to me, as a mother myself. As a society I think we are sort of desensitized to men who leave their families. It's wrong but it happens so frequently that we somehow make a place for it. It is so rare for a mother to leave her family. Honestly, it scares me because who knows what could happen to me and my own mental status.

I do live my MLCer and because you two are NC, I understand you are wondering what to expect. You can never know with an MLCer. I think Cali's advice is outstanding. The way he told a joke in the mediation is exactly how I suggest you should be, that is: act as if. Be business-like, accomplish what you have to but without hostility. Hold your head up high and just act as if you are moving forward, no problem. I would not get into any of her drama with her. Personally, I would say very little about the situation as they are so illogical it is a waste of your energy. Continue to leave her to her own mess and let her find her own mop.

Again, wishing you the best tomorrow.