Thank you everyone for your kind wishes and support.
My Father passed away last night. He was in a great hospice that made him comfortable, surrounded by family, the classic song "The Old Rugged Cross" played softly as he took his last breath.
It was a weird, difficult, joy-filled day (?!) for me. Let's see if I can piece it together for y'all. I was at the hospice in the morning with my Mom, brother and sister and their spouses. Also a niece and her 3 young kids who flew in from D.C.
W showed up around noon. This is where the joyful part of the day came in - d21 is pregnant! She recently moved out of my apartment to move in with her bf. D21 was too afraid to tell me, so W told me. I expressed nothing but happiness and joy at the news. I am a grandfather!
There were a dozen family members there, all taking turns to sit with Dad. He slept most of the day b/c of the strong medication he was on. He was comfortable feeling no pain. He even got a massage!
W left for a bit and brought back s14. I playfully harassed him b/c he knew of d21's pregnancy and didn't tell me last weekend. We were all there and surrounded Dad as he passed away.
I was uncomfortable with W being there for so long. We didn't talk much, as she has not seen my family for some time, so she visited with others. But there was one prickly exchange when we talked to SiL about d21's pregnancy:
I explained to SiL that I told d21 around Thanksgiving when she moved in with bf that "sex is a great thing when you are married. But sex when you are not married always causes problems." For some reason, W was offended (grin.)
W shot back that she likes d21's bf, but that he always has big plans for a job down the road - but he won't just take any job now to make sure some $$$ are coming in. This was her shot at me.
But otherwise everyone was supportive of each other. My sister made some strange faces about W being there. Brother asked why she was staying so long. But no one said anything uncomfortable to W.
I had a chance to talk with out-of-town niece, after I good-naturedly whomped her oldest daughter at foosball (and taught her how to cheat, but that's another story ). And we had a chance to speak about her separation.
Niece is an attractive, fun, full of life mother of 3 young kids. Her wandering H left weeks before she gave birth to her 4 month old. She is confused. Every week he mentions coming back to her, but is still seeing other women. So she wants blood b/c he is hiding his self-employed business revenues, and she accidentally received a text from MiL saying "let's really screw (niece) by moving these assets."
Yet she still wants WH back. So I told her a bit about my sitch, DR, the DB Board here and the support we provide to each other, and a bit about MLC. She was glad to have someone come alongside her and understand what she was going thru. And not just tell her to divorce the crumb and move on with your life. It was nice to have that time with my niece.
Oh btw, d21 baby's due date is August 25th which is a day after my Dad's birthday. This seems like one of those Godincidences.
He was in a great hospice that made him comfortable, surrounded by family, the classic song "The Old Rugged Cross" played softly as he took his last breath.
). And we had a chance to speak about her separation.