Hi all. Not posting as much now but the struggle continues. I have often told others of Star s and how your looking for the planet not the stars
I hope it's ok and cadet please feel free to remove this post if I'm overstepping my remit
In my sitch, I see plenty of stars I have listed yesterday's just for example
W is quite sick at the moment and she missed work on Sunday which for her is huge On Mondays she collects kids from school and then Works Tuesday
This Sunday she text to say she was very unwell and how she was feeling sorry for herself. I was making the roast so didn't see text until about an hour later
I replied " sorry to hear that , take care of yourself.
On the Monday she text that she was worse so I drove the 40 miles from my office to collect kids and then back to office to collect S20. I got a really nice text about how grateful she was and she was bored in her flat and had gone out for some milk and almost fainted. Tuesday she text to say she was not at work and could I collect kids. I asked how she was and she still said she felt bad so I said I would collect kids. Once again off I trotted , collect D11 and headed home because the other two don't finish until 4 pm. When D11 and I got home W was there , looking like death warmed up and quite emotional. She hadn't seen kids since Sat pm
Here's the list of stars
W told me she was lonely in her flat and just needed to see kids
I made tea and left W and D11 to chat , W followed me in and started showing my pictures of her family from Xmas
I then left to hover the hall ( dogs stay in during day as its too cold ) and W followed me around needing me to turn off hover 2/3 times
I then sat in a different room and W followed me in feeling me about how she hates her work and was feeling really sick. I asked W to put on a coat because she looked frozen. She grab me band a stick it I. The top of her jumper for me to feel how hot he was
I then said I would leave to collect the two older kids and W asked me to check her tyres as she thought they were low and she was too sick to do it. I took the car to my workshop / garage and pumped the tyres
At this point I asked D11 to open the gates so I could drive out and I asked D11 to shut them after me as I would drop the other two and head back to work
D11 was outside and I was at front door and W started telling me she was fed up and upset a lot of the time. She said she didn't want to go to work anymore. I answered that you gave up the STAHM gig and we both laughed but W tear red up and had to look away. She carried on talking and in the end I called D11 back in. I finally got away and W geared up again
My point in all the above is you can read what you want into it
Is W regretting her choices
Is W down because of sickness
Is W playing me for some motive yet to be revealed ????
Any newbie reading this please take from it that unless your WAS is deviod of all emotion then of course they will give mixed signals ( stars ) and you trying to analyse them will not reduce your pain one bit
Focus on you , leave WAS to their own choices. Stars can be seen when they are there and when you think they are there If the WAS wants to come home they will let you know and he only way you want them back is if they commit 110% to the M.
We all deserve someone that loves us because of love , not money or a home or even for the kids They have to want us
Again , I hope I haven't over stepped any lines but when I see people grasping at straws in a vain hope then it upsets me
You have a life , you don't need someone to complete you... You need someone to love you , cherish you and respect you for who you are
