I can honestly tell you that if it was my situation, I would relish in the delight of exposing husbands OW and making her life and WS life miserable. The justice of it would help me to sleep at night. If OW lost a job for it even better. Anyone that knowingly goes after married person (especially with kids) should be held responsible (I think financially and legally) since they are helping to break up a legalized Committment.
I am not confident enought to advise that to others because I Have no personal experience with whether it will get spouse back. If found out my husband cheated it would be crossing a boundary for me and I don't think our past relationship would be worth it to work through it. So I would be doing this knowing that I did not want relationship with my cheating spouse.
I also feel that the spouse of OW/ OH should be made aware because there is nothing worse then suspecting but having no proof. Plus they are exposed to life threatening illnesses and financial ruin. Personally, I would want to know if I was that spouse. It is fair. If I was told in confidence by close friend that she or he was cheating I would not be able to break that code though. So this is tricky and hypocritical.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
