No post in a long time. The deadline to get my D paperwork in has come and gone and I have survived. from re-reading my previous posts, it seems it took a lot out of me. Today, our Ls are meeting with the magistrate to set up temporary court orders. Since we are living in the same house and are still sharing expenses, it does not seem like this is going to make much of a difference in our financial, living, and parenting situations.
Early this morning D7 walked into my room and was upset that she could not find W in the house. I went downstairs to look for W. When I got to W's room, I turned on the lights to find W in a new pillow-top queen sized bed. I asked her how she paid for it. She told me she used “our” money to purchase it. She is right, she did: I found a charge for $859.00 on my credit card. ILs and OM are empowering her to be so rebellious and to make such terrible financial decision as the divorce approaches. She is spending like it is going out of style. She does not show me her receipts, so I have no idea what she is spending on. However, she left a receipt in my car last weekend. She bought two skirts and charged it to her personal credit card. She is charging things to her own credit cards and to my credit cards. These are all marital debts. Who knows how much she is spending? She is not making wise financial decisions and it will hurt me, the children, and her in the long run. I am just amazed at how entitled she is acting. ----------------
Originally Posted By: JellyB
People who aren't regular posters get a bit lost in the noise of this place sometimes, so I tend to watch for them. Just so you know.
JellyB, thanks again for the advice. As a non-regular poster, I do sometimes feels like I am posting to myself exclusively. I want you to know how nice it makes me feel to know that someone is looking out for me. Even if you don't reply, it means so much to me to know that you and others are watching over me. you picked up on my insecurity without me even having to mention it. Very empathic of you.
Also, I read your most recent thread. It seems like you have a knack for identifying the strength in others, but that you are simultaneously completely blind to your own strengths. I have news for you. You are already a butterfly: you are living your life, tribulations and all. You are striving towards self-improvement.
Remember the Lion from the Wizard of Oz? He was afraid that he had no courage, but he had it all along. the proof was in his journey. Are you on a journey at present? I am assuming then that you have the sufficient courage to complete the journey.
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For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way. Something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. -Alfred D. Souza
We all need to keep on keepin' on. Your life is not turning out the way you expected it. Is anyone's? That does not change who you are. A soul. When I read your last post to me, I thought to myself, who is this awesome DIVA? Another Ancaire, another Vanilla, another Sotto, another SunnyB, another Sandi? WOW! I challenge you to prove to me that you are NOT awesome.
