Yesterday setback, she decided that I was blackmailing with additional money and that she will file for divorce the ugly way...

Basically she did not talk to me except about things regarding regular home tasks.

again, I know, trust nothing she says, repeating this request again
I prepared list of questions regarding my situation, local law in my country, if anybody is reading this do you have any list of questions for your first meeting with lawyer?

Me38,W36,D9
M 10y, R 14y

10/11/2015 wants to leave
25/12/2015 definitely wants to leave, makes plans
Jan 2016 started DBing
Feb 2016 sleeping in separate rooms
Sep 2016 sleeping in same room