How do people deal with the love hate, up and down that keeps happening ?
Originally Posted By: keefa
I am detaching slowly
I would say if you are doing the first - the love/hate/love/hate - then you still need to keep practicing the second.
Originally Posted By: keefa
but during detaching, I feel a lot of hostility and I know I am very cold and offish towards her, especially the pettiness and actions, for one example, moving all my tea mugs onto a separate shelf to hers etc. I cant seem to shift away from these feelings...
So what are you going to do to try to shift these feelings? Youre really getting bent out of shape about tea mugs? Just think "oh, that wacky W" and let it go. Why get upset over that - its a ridiculous action.
But not dwelling on these little things, you lose that "edge" that changes you from indifference to cold.
