Hi Huddy. Unfortunately there is no handbook for how to deal with this and I think your doing really well. W coming forward or being warm means nothing You know this and if she decides to reconnect I think you will know.
I had alot of people tell me that I was too black and white with W but it was right for me. I help like you do but won't contact unless she starts it and never talk about R
I'm sure your W knows you love her still but I would also be sure she knows that you are able to move on as well.
You have become a man only a fool would leave and now you will see if / when she emerges from her fog if she can see that.
The trip sounds great and IMHO I would mention it as it is a big deal that maybe you would mention to someone , especially if W is going to be looking after the kids while your away
Again , you are a poster boy for DBing. Every time I see you've posted I look to see the next improvement in how you are dealing with a poo sitch
