Well, idk if it was the right move but I took a stand tonight. I told w I didn't want her in the house so long as she was in contact with OM. Last night after we had a good little talk, she was treating me like garbage again. Not that I'm suprised but it's the same thing over again so I did what I normally wouldn't. I took a stand. W got defensive and tried to justify it all and blame me. She said she thinks it's ok because she talked (BDd rather) to me about D right before Christmas. She tried to bring the kids into it but didn't keep up with it. She says after everything you've fine to me your kicking me out. I'm flabergasted! I can't believe this! I said no, I don't want you out, but I won't stand for an A while you're in my home. I won't let you do that to me or my family. I had to repeat this numerous times while she tried to justify it to me. She wasn't making sense, said she knew she was hurting me but didn't see why it was a problem because she wants a d. She's taking note of my actions because she kept saying how I'm acting like she never talked to me about d. She brought up more if the past and my faults, I apologized for for what deserved it and said I wish I could change things that I've done wrong and that I was sorry I've hurt her. But I kept having to repeat that I would not stand for...I told her to think what kind of person the OM was (tinder and talking to married women with children) and to go to a friend who knows and loves her for emotional support. She said no one else listens to her, she's had this complaint before (valid but oversensitive) so I told her to use a different approach, tell them she feels that way and that she really needs them to listen to her and that it will be different. I also urged her to get herself a therapist (she says she's had bad experiences when she's gone in the past).

After this she said she had to think and went outside to smoke...what? She's smoking now!!? 14-15 is when she used to steal her parents cigarettes. She quit shortly after we started dating.

I hope I made a good choice, this was so hard but this is my boundary and I simply won't put up with an A while in my home and traveling all over with no contact while I'm home with the kids. I know she definately didn't expect his from me.