I feel like she is a rebellious teenager some days.
My XW continues to act this way as far as I can tell. She makes choices like our teenaged son does. Bizarre sense of entitlement considering she is in her 40s and should know better.
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But, she only worked 3 days a week, and did whatever she wanted on the other days. I never intentionally held her from doing anything unless we had no money.
Again, very similar to my XW. As adults with children we all have to set realistic boundaries on our behavior including when it comes to money. Life and marriage ain't easy.
The truth is, our WS/WAS's will tolerate the same behavior in their OPs that they say they reject the LBS for.
Doesn't mean everyone doesn't bear responsibility for the quality of the relationship, but in the end some people quit and some people don't. Aside from real danger, abuse, or serious problematic behavior that you refuse to change, there is no excuse that works for me to justify quitting, and none to justify or excuse cheating.
I think that some people don't have it in them to truly forgive, or truly seek forgiveness, and work through problems while honoring their commitments. It's a personality and character issue, and they view things in terms of what they think they could or should have, or how much easier it should be to get it, than in realizing that most of us already have far more than most in the world, and that real benefits (be they emotional, relational, spiritual, material) all require hard work over the long haul, and perseverance.
