I have two questions first: 1. Should I be as NC as posable or should I still be somewhat open to normal interactions? 2. She mentioned to her friend (see below) that me not paying for her to move out and get an apartment, that I'm forcing her to file for divorce so she can get money to move out. Is this WW talk?
Well the MIL had the "real talk" with my wife and it went horrible. My wife exploded at her and made a scene at the coffee shop. This is SO very out of character for her. The W told her mom all the normal stuff, never in love, we were never close, etc... but her mom didn't agree with the wife at all. I guess it really went bad with my W started talking about her true love (OM) and how we will all be happier once they are together (me included).
The wife came home that night and asked to talk, I was already in bed watching tv but I still said yes (last time I do that). She spent 45min explaining the talk she had with her mom and brother that day, really pouring out her feelings. She is focusing all her anger at her family right now, they think she has gone crazy. I listened and validated her. At the end she mentioned that she can never truly be open and honest with me (or her family) about her feelings, that I never cared. I simply asked, what was the last 45min then? She looked confused and I said goodnight and went to bed without another word. She came into the bedroom and said "I love you, even if you don't believe that right now". WTH? I wanted to stay and talk more, explain that I do care and that is why I'm listening to her for the last 45min. Even though she is my cheating wife. BUT I didn't.
Her good friend called me earlier Friday afternoon and ask me some questions because she was confused about what my wife was saying. I guess the wife had told her that we agreed to separate in September before the wife spent 4 days in her home town alone (with OM in 99% sure) and we agreed to hold off on divorce until after the holidays. That is not true at all! She also mentioned that my W said it was over with OM and she was leaving to be by herself, neither of us believed that.
Interesting thing, even though my W got very upset about me canceling her phone (she had 7 days to transfer), not paying for her trip to Mexico, and taking over bill paying. She never mentioned moving out or divorce all week, other than a passing remark of "filling papers so people know this is real".
After spending a great weekend with my kids and my family, horseback riding, playing with puppies, flying my drone, gym, park, etc. I really thought about my GAL and that I have to just completely let go of her. Sunday night I was ironing my cloths for the week and listening to music, really in a great mood. I went to the kitchen to refill my water and she asks me "What are you so upset about" I replied with "Nothing, I'm doing great".
She still talks to OM allot, she even purchased some "coins" for the IM app she used to talk with him on Monday. We had a iTunes family share setup but I removed her from that as soon as I saw that purchase.
She sat around the house all weekend and just watching movies, cleaning, doing our laundry, and texting on her phone.
