Last night

[kyrie]

Fo - true, but these issues have always been there. Nothing new (such as the MLC), so it's not right for me to just cast it that way & ignore it.
I keep thinking the only way *not* to be the punching bag is to get away. That can't be the only thing...but it's all I can think of that I haven't already tried. I know, no magic. I keep saying it to him too (which may not be appropriate). It's usuallly in the context of validating & hearing what I DO need to focus on. Maybe when I validate I'm coming across as groveling or something...not sure.
He's not saying he's still trying. He's just saying he's claiming a high moral ground because he used to and is once again hammering me with "you're not trying" (despite that I am). That's one of our huge issues: he feels one way (about something subjective to himself: his feelings about what I am or do) and I know I mean or do otherwise. UGH.
Comms with him are "annoying". lol


Thanks Drew. I've had a dozen book suggestions... could you share a Cliffs Notes version??