Last night

[kyrie]

Haven't heard from you guys. I know Fo's thread has been busy & it's a busy day.
Here's an example of our comms:
Texts from H:
I've taken your toxicity (which is my word about him, hmmm) for so many years and rarely did I shut down comms. I listened and I tried. You don't. (all of this is not true)
--Try to validate, let me know what you think of this:
Kyrie: I hear a lot of bitterness, criticsm, and complaints and a lot of things about you. I hear you talk at me (which is what he says I do to him).
H: So?
K: It was wrong for me to do those things - it's not Christian when I did that.
H: You've done that the whole time and I keep trying (really????)
K: (again trying to validate): You're right. I'm struggling and frustrated about that. I also know it's wrong and not helpful.
H: You still do them.
No response.

What do you all make of these types of comms? I've been thinking a lot about Zues's "filter/translator". Maybe I'm just that dense & not getting it. Last night (before these texts) he says all my comms w/him are "annoying" (which is better than the foul stuff he usually spews, but still).