Hi Pink, well that's fair enough. So, if you can go with no expectations, hear what he has to say, and receive the message without reacting - that would be fine I think.

Perhaps once he has said 'it' you can hear him out, probing gently if you need to, then say - thanks for telling me this. I'm going to need some time to think about that and I will come back to you.

Then maybe gently change the subject on to a 'safe' area. Make a list - kids, work, weather - just something to converse about. Then maybe finish your drink and head off.

Just my thoughts - but if you have very low expectations of what may happen and manage not to react - I don't think you can go too far wrong.

Take care Sweetie xx

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