Please stop texting/emailing your h. That is called pursuing and he doesn't want to hear it. The less you do this, the more of a chance that he'll become curious and contact you.
He's angry at the world and you are the most likely target for the sprew right now because he thinks you are part of his problem...you aren't.
Going dark is just what it means...you do not contact him, you do not pursue him. You leave him totally alone and only respond if a response is necessary. You only contact him if it's an absolute emergency, if it isn't, you take care of the problem. You do not rely on him for anything. Going dark is for YOU, not to get him back. Dbing is for YOU, not to get your h back. Dbing helps you to find your footing and learn how to communicate w/others in the world. It teaches you how to not react to their comments and actions.
Question...how well do you get along with your mother-in-law? If you get along with her, then it's up to you to decide if you want to go....but understand...if he's there, no expectations and be upbeat and have a good time. If you opt not to go, then you need to decline and just say that you are busy or have other plans. His family doesn't need to be in the middle of what's going on between you and your h.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
