Pink, You are starting to think about YOU. It all takes time and you are slowly getting to the other side. Don't rush the process. Allow that pain to wash over you and then release it. The best way to deal w/that pain is to work thru it and let it go. I know it's difficult right now, but you've come such a long way.
You will know the right time to have a discussion w/him. What may seem important to him, may not be so for you. Don't allow him to sway you into meeting him if you aren't ready to do so.
Even if your xh says he wants to come home, I wouldn't take him back quite so quickly. He would have to live on his own and be transparent w/you. He would have to work very hard to win your trust and love again. If you make it too simple and allow him back too quickly, he most likely will go again off the rails.
Pink, it's time to start thinking and doing for Pink. His drama is his to own and you do not want to be a part of it...unless it concerns your family. He needs to grow up and hopefully realize what he's lost, i.e., YOU.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
