She isn't the girl you married. She's grown up. People do change over time, and usually it's a good thing. You wouldn't want to be married to a perpetual 17 year old, would you?
I see the things your W doing as experiments in learning about who she is, and who she wants to be. You see it as evidence that she's growing away from you.
I'm beginning to think she may have felt stifled in her M - not by anything you were doing overtly. She may have felt she wasn't allowed the freedom to explore, try new things, and to grow as an individual.
I can tell from talking to you these past months that it was not your intention - but maybe you were holding her back a little, as far as she was concerned. She may not have perceived that she had the freedom to experiment - she may have felt you wanted her to be the same way forever.
That would stifle anyone. The adult way to deal with this would have been to discuss it. Did she try having talks with you in the past? You mentioned you've changed. Were you controlling? Did you discount her ideas? Did you encourage her to never change?
I don't know - just random thoughts popping into my head. If she's truly immature, running away would have been the answer to feeling stifled and controlled. What do you think?
