Had a great day skiing...had to come home and get straight into the bath so that I can hopefully walk tomorrow, LOL. Met up with a new friend and skied with her a bit, and saw a few others that I knew. Lots of morning ski runs by myself, though. Snuck in a few big challenges, conquered them, and overcame my fears. Big self confidence boosters today.
I gave up on H coming over for the tax stuff, but my cell phone kept going off while I was in the tub. When I finally got out and checked, it was H and he was almost to the house. He had left the hill a bit later and still wanted to do tax stuff.
Long story short we ended up talking, laughing, behaving "as if". He noticed I had pulled pork in the crock pot so I offered to pack up some of that and some black bean soup I made. He said, "that would be great, but I don't mind eating some here". So we had dinner together. He dug through our wine rack and even poured us each a glass of wine.
No R talk. Just catching up.
I never ran into him at the mountain, but one of the mountain staff let him know he saw me. So we both talked about our day there (him more than me). I let him tell me stories and share ideas. Used my new listening skills; validated when I could, listened well, and asked questions to clarify points. Go me!
He kept bringing up things, movies we both had seen years ago, inside jokes, news items, etc. and saying, "no one gets the joke/ reference when I say that, except you." A few times he referenced things I've told him (health stuff) that I always thought he ignored out of spite, and told me how he does/ doesn't do that now because I had told him about it. Like he can now accept that advice and wanted me to know it. I just smiled or laughed each time or made some neutral comment...with a smile. It was a very pleasant end to a very fun but tiring day.
Once again, no expectations. But for the first time, it wasn't hard to not bring up R.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
