Also been thinking about you pink, I'm not that far time wise in front.
Just coming up to 2 years, but xh2 had done some pretty nasty stuff including assaulting in a sort of mild way my son. In the previous year, he did one large abuse thing after another.... The behaviour kept escalating for 10-12 months before the real separation, around the time I suspect he was grooming the ow.
I managed to let go once I had enough intelligence on what had been going on to say look xh2 is a liar, he deliberately did plan as he said for 4 years of my demise. His script is pure narc. Once I went totally nc and started settlement things gathered speed.
Bf was just a fluke so many small threads that lined up. I asked out plenty of men most of whom freaked out and bolted. And really I never was lets go on a date, still they were scared.
I don't think scared really goes away. I still have large moments of fear and what if but Nike says feel the fear and it it anyway.
Shrugs so pink just gal and something will turn up. I think the moral of me asking was it was too much like pushing and hard work let things happen naturally.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
