Hi everyone. I have been lurking a bit but havent posted. Selfishly I need some help from some of you!
My sitch:
M 17 years
3 Ds
H drops the bomb that he is unhappy- still loves me- cant make me happy - i dont want to be with him- sex life horible
H then has EA, then PA.. I DB, work on myself, run a marathon, and try to give him space even though I wanted to scream and obsess, went on meds for depression.
H then sleeps at his sisters for a year while seeing me
moves in unceremoniously in Sep and we start to improve
and here I am.....

dilemma
Since being together more we have talked a little about things. We are not good at communicating. One of our problems. I get very emotional. anyway:
good things

we are together
H says he wants to be with me
H seems for the first time to get a grip on the reality of his decisions
He loves me more since I accept him and was so strong throughout

I cant think of any more! so awful and this shows my current state:
H just got a bad review at work and listed on the bottom of the list of managers- this is a big blow for him. Previously he was on the rise and career so important. Meanwhile, H moves away from his old building (where OW is) and into a new place, gets a new cell phone. Cell phone shows up on our home bill and has walgreens calling card numbers on it. I am upset (I have lived thru so many lies)
so the next month he has it sent to his work- says he may need to expense it at work.
he changes his greeting to include only first name- says it is his phone and not work...
I am very upset that the cycle is beginning or never ended. Any one have ideas? I tried like heck to support him last night in his work problems. I am very anxious and unfocused,. He says he will call today and move it back,
help
shay