Thanks Fogg. I know you are right. I will definitely check out both of those books.

I never even considered my 'smile and drive away' as being a rude thing...I was so hurt by her, that I was instinctively defending myself and trying to not be mean in return the way she was to me.

I really just don't have the tools emotionally, or how to communicate or whatever. I know that. Thats why I post these long messages. I'm trying to give enough of myself out there for others to judge my actions and interactions to help me learn. (Not to save my marriage, but to help me be a better me.)

Anyway, thank you for taking time to comment honestly. It means a lot.


Me:41 - LBH in apt
W:39 - WW in home
Kids:D(15), D(11), S(9) - custody % 58/42
M: 15 yrs - DoS: 10-11-15
(PA confirmed 2-12-16; WW dumped by AP 11-6-15; WW dated 7-8 men in Jan '16 via Match.com)