Need support navigating the change in my marriage

[G8r]

Thanks again for the encouraging words Tyler12. WW got home at 7pm and was aggravated because I previously told her I didn't want her falling me to ask about D3 while she is away because of her choices (wouldn't be the same if it were for work or a family emergency) and it was really hard for her this weekend. I previously told her it was confusing to D3 and I didn't like lying to D3 and telling her mommy is at work after the call when D3 asks where mommy is. She also didn't like that I was vague and told her we were having adventures when she texted asking what we were doing. This could have easily boiled into an argument but I Td her she was welcome to join us if she wants and left it at that. She gave me some more spew about talking to her L, that I wouldn't like it if she did that to me and that i shouldn't put D3 in between us. If not for your expectation comment, I'm sure I would have responding. Instead i did my best to smile and remain calm, especially since she viewed it as another exqmple of us arguing and a reason for us getting a D. Doesn't really matter if i argue with her or not at this point. Anytime she disagrees with me and i dont give her what she wants its an argument in her book. I'm saddened by her comments and threats but not nearly as much if I hadn't thought about not having any expectations prior to her arriving home. Thank you.

Btw, I'm happy she shares stuff she does when she has D3 but I don't ask. Only reinforce by thanking her for sharing.