I have found that coming to the board and either reading others stories or just journal-ling is helping me. Each time I feel the urge to think about what H is doing, or try to figure out where he may be I starting reading and posting. I realize I may have an obsessive personality (one of H's complaints) and I'm just "trading in" one obsession for another, but it does feel like this board may be a "healthier" obsession? Reading and realizing that there are others in similar situations helps me feel a little less alone and a little less like a failure.
M: Early 40s H: late 30s 2 kids under 10 M: 15 yrs BD: 7/14 S: 10/14