Now, I can appreciate the POV of your last post, but I don't subscribe to it. I don't think I married the wrong person and my H has come to the same conclusion, albeit only lately, that he did not marry the wrong person either.
The two of us each simply got caught up in a season of seduction--him with OW and me with things other than my H, which has been turned into a good thing now really for the both of us, because it allowed us to see what was wrong with our R and M and what it was we really wanted--each other.
My H has shared with me time and again that while he felt he loved/loves the OW and was/is deeply attached to her, he could NEVER live with her and/or raise her kids. He can't stand her family either. She would have always been the OW, never a wife. In time he finally realized that the type of relationship with OW was NOT healthy because he wanted a wife (namely me) and the relationship you have with a wife. I had to change in many ways and did and he is enthralled with the "new" me.
Yes, it will take a long time for us both to get over this past year in our lives, and to heal--the OW must be cut out completely from our lives. I also fully understand that he may never fully get over the OW. But I can assure you that I will do everything in my power to make that happen as much as possible. My H is going to be so well taken care of in so many ways, I hope one day I hear from him, "OW--who is that?"
I pray that you are able to work out your faith issues SuperDave. Faith in God and His promises to us are such wonderful things. You are in better shape than my H though, he does not believe that Jesus is the Son of God, nor does he believe in God Himself. However, he will concede that a higher power MUST exist. Makes no sense to me--it must be a man thing, I don't know. My thoughts are that if you believe in a higher power, why wouldn't it be in the God of the Holy Bible?
LG--who wonders if you are an American living in England or are truly British, because I can't hear an accent!
A blessed and happy marriage is a union of two forgivers and Him, because...a cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12.
