Last night

[kyrie]

Respect is not required of the H (for Christians). However, love is...and honor and cherish. So yeah, it's missing.

I don't how we could honor a person if we did not respect him/her.

I am not up on your story, I just wanted to join in on this subject since I usually have a lot to say about a woman needing to respect her H in order to experience the loving feelings and desire for him.

I believe anytime there is a lack of respect from either spouse, it builds a foundation for more problems. I really don't how anyone is able to endure a daily relationship of disrespect in a M. I was a WW who disrespected my H, and if it had been him disrespecting me........I would have been out of here as fast as I could pack a bag. Ironic? Maybe. I have noticed something the LBS's have in common (at least the majority of them),and that is how they seem to tolerate disrespect from their S.

I understand in some cases where a woman may have several children and solely dependent on her H, (or stays b/c of religious reasons), etc., and that it may not be so easy to just pack a bag and leave. Putting that scenerio aside, it continues to baffle me why this tollerance seems to be so common among the LBS's. Respect/honor should be required in a MR, and people should not settle for less.

If we have the idea that our S is not required to respect us, would that not wash away our own self-respect and give the message that we are not worthy or valuable enough to be respected?

I can agree Sandi, however, you cannot demand respect (esp. a wife). And yes, I was referring to the wedding vows, which are still in play despite my feelings/experiences.
How should I deal w/it?
It is necessary, but cannot be demanded or coerced...sigh.
And love is also required/necessary, same deal though.