The start of my happiness.

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My DB coach was invaluable. She had seen over 8,000 similar situations and had an uncanny knack in helping me determine how to effectively find the balance between enabling and being fair, being friendly and being friends, punishing vs setting boundaries, etc.

When I had to file separation. When I had to set financial boundaries. When my XW attempted suicide. When I had to decide whether the kids were safe with her. When I had to navigate through her blackout drinking and serial affairs...my DB coach was there. I have never made more life changing decisions in the my life than I have in the last 18 months. My DB coach was there every step to help me understand my motivations, priorities, and options.

If you think that you'd regret getting the kind of assistance then you don't place the same priority on marriage that I do. I think EVERYONE should get a DB coach. People say they can't afford it, but I promise I could find something in their household that cost $300 or whatever that was less important. The heated seats in the car. The bigger TV. Whatever.

Just my two cents.