In the Arena III- Becoming Hilariously Pleased

[Zues126]

Thank you for your post JB. Your words meant more to me than you know.

I don't have the answers on self love or self worth. Personally I think they might be a bit overrated in the following way: If you feel there is some better life that you can only have once you crack some code of self worth...then you will spend your life trying to figure it out, wondering if you have solved it yet, poking, prodding, asking 'am I there yet, can I start enjoying my life to the fullest yet?'

No, I believe life can be awesome even if you struggle with self worth. There is nothing you're missing. Nothing except giving yourself permission to enjoy the screwed up life you have. Self love isn't about changing how you feel about yourself. It's about changing how you feel about how you feel about yourself.

I don't know, thought I'd try that on and see if it worked. Bottom line JB, whether you do or do not, you're pretty cool. And so what if you want a man's love. You'll get it. And some guys might consider a tiny bit of dependence a good thing vs. the independence we were talking about earlier. In the meantime, thanks for being on the forums. Did I mention I'm reading my kids Lord of the Rings? Someday I have to check out Hobbiton...