LG,
You are in a difficult position. I know that if I saw my OW again I would want her badly. We parted with lots of things yet to discover about each other. Fortunately our lives do not overlap anymore so the only way is if one deliberately gets in touch with the other. I suspect that she (as a separated HD woman) will have found a new partner by now. She has probably had many.
Good luck LG.
SD - Jesus was a great guy.