I really don't know what to do. By one hand I am curious to know what XH wants to talk with me, by other hand I am scared to death that I will get hurt once again.
I have been avoiding him in any way I can. Totally dark, really dead for him.
Saturday Jan 9th I got this text: XH - Hi Pink - Would it be OK to stop by for a few minutes tonight just to say hello to our sons? I understand if not and hope you are well.
I did not see the message, was not expecting him around because he was suppose to be with OW.
Then Friday Jan 15th I got this: XH - Good Morning Pink - would it be possible to speak with you for a minute before I bring our sons to school?
Me - Good Morning XH. There is no school today.
XH - Soot. I do not know how I missed it. I even put on my calendar. So sorry to disturb you. I would ask to speak with you sometime soon. If you would allow me the opportunity.
Me - What's up? You can text me or email me.
XH - It's personal XH - Between us
Me - OK. Have a good day!
XH - You too.
Then he text and call the kids several times during the weekend to talk about the football games, what the kids were up to. Some they answered, some they didn't.
Then today at 10:30am I got a text saying:
XH - Hello Pink - I would like to know if you might have any time this afternoon to meet for a coffee or something? Or another day or time this week?
Me - 10:56am - Good Morning XH - It this any issue with our kids? Just want to know what is about before I decide if it is something to resolve in person or we can resolve by text or email. I am not disregarding your request, if it is important for you, then I will meet you. But I would rather not. Please, let me know.
XH - 12:38am - It has nothing to do with our sons. Just between you and me. I understand.
XH - 1:19pm - I understand if you do not want to meet me. It is important for me to meet with you and talk.
XH - If you could.
I did not answer him yet. I can't think about something so important that he needs to see me in order to tell me. We are divorced for 5 months and there is nothing that we need to resolve, it is all done by the court.
The reality is that I am reacting from FEAR... I put myself in the dark and it feels good because I do not need to hurt as much.
If anyone can just give an opinion I would appreciate, maybe I can see things from another perspective.
