Perhaps you're right. Maybe it's a half-hearted attempt to prove to the X that I am not unwanted.
Sweetie, if this is in any way about proving anything to anyone, including X, then you aren't ready. Period. I recently started dating, and I'm having a good time. But that was a year after Mr. P moved out, and a 18 months after BD. During that time period, I figured out how to be at peace with myself and what I want going forward. I did a lot of GAL, but with other women or in a group. Give that a try first, go out there, try new activities, pick up a hobby, learn something you always wanted to do, but don't date yet.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
You're right. I won't mindread the X because I can't and there is no reason to now.
I won't be bringing anyone around kid until I am sure that I am headed towards a long-term commitment with the guy. I am also very wary about having random guys around kid and would not hesitate to go for the jugular if anyone should hurt kid.
I am looking into meetups (would this qualify as friendship sites?) and I have made a few new female friends from my single activities. My friends have warned me though that some guys use meetups for one-night stands. Shudder.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
I am someone who takes time to warm up and ease into things, so from setting up my profile to actually going on dates may just take another few more months.
I guess I want to start dating for myself. Just want to see what's out there.
Sigh. Why are we on different continents?
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
Sweet Sunny! Yes, I really shouldn't date to prove anything to anyone. It's been almost a year since I moved out.
I have spent a lot of time by myself and GAL quite a bit, with friends but mostly on my own.
I don't know if this is the wrong perspective to have but I see dating as a part of GAL, now that I am ready to get on with my life.
Truth be told, I had an opportunity to start a relationship in the months leading to D, but I couldn't do it, not even to spite the X. Now, I am feeling comfortable with the idea.
But I won't rush into anything that I am not comfortable with, I promise!
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
*chuckles* I probably won't be having any head to head contact with any guy soon so I wouldn't be too worried about the lice.
But you're right. I must clear the lice before I get serious about anyone. Lice is something that I will only wish on my enemies. It would be a great opportunity though for the guy to prove his sincerity by picking nits for me.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
NYGal, sorry to read that moving out was tough for you. It was very tough for me too. (((Hugs )))
Gmum, the thought of meeting new people does frighten me. I have been out of practice for so long...
I was reading some comment that you made in another thread. That you don't want your D to say that dad left and mum keeled over and died. It made me smile and I thought I wouldn't want kid to think that too.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
