Sandinista better to answer this than me probably. You can't force her to talk to you so you can listen and validate. She has to choose to talk. At which point you use the skills you have been learning. Taking her crap. That's where your tools come in. Stay calm. If she gets angry walk away and say we can talk when we are reasonable. As for her actions. Again you can't control what she does. All you can control is if and how you let it effect you.
Sandi I have a question. Your sitch you described. Your husbands actions which lead to your resentment sounds exactly like myself. Did your H recognize his faults and address them. If so what tools did he use to change?
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
