Been reading a thread, with some of Sandi s WW advice and explanation.
I did not quit. I do not treat xw any way but with love and respect. I did not break apart my kids family. I have not intentionally made our lives tremendously harder. Xw did all this.
I need to have more respect for myself and start moving forward with my own life "as if" she won't return. I truly hope she comes to me, remorseful and humble and wanting to reconcile our M. That needs to be the only thing that I look for. I can and will be ok, either way. She is in the wrong now, not me. It's on her to take the first step to fix it.
It has been over 6 months apart, and she still goes and spends her alone weekends with her parents. Still can't bear to be alone? I hope she starts to realize that.
Done thinking about that. Time to drop the rope and let her carry this burden alone
YESS! DDAY, once you drop the rope trust me it gets better. I never to this date would have thought i could drop the rope being so attach to my W was killing me. The day i drop the rope once when things started getting better. I felt at peace, i felt confident. It was different. But dont get me wrong i still at times get these emotional roller coasters where i start telling myself " who am i kidding" "i do need her" But thankfully i snap out of them.
When the idea of , (i cant force someone to be with me, and that life really does go on after divorce) sync in to me I was ok. Everyone i talk to they tell me i look great and look at peace. And everyone is happy for me , even through this trouble. You keep you head up DDAY is not easy i know. But WW will have to deal with this decision , and perhaps she might rethink it or maybe she never will. At the end of the day Dday youll be fine. I salute all the strong men/women that are here fighting for their marriage. We are the real MVP.
