NYGal, I'm reminded this morning of several questions my DB coach would ask me.

How is the current strategy working and how long have you been implementing it? If it's working what evidence do you have that it is working? If it's a new strategy give it time and what evidence will you need to see in order to know it's working? If it's not working and you've given it time what other strategy could you implement?

Do not change a strategy that is working unless it stops working.

Me 40
WW 41
D 4
S 12
S 14
BD 6.16.2015
W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15
W Filed Divorce 9.14.15
My ring off 11.15.15
D finalized 12.18.15
WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place