LBH w/ a WXW after the D - now what

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Hi NYGal, I have been but should post some more. I'm often not sure I have anything to contribute. I feel like I did my best to bust my D but here I am D anyway. I know I need to remember I can only control my actions and choices. I believe I took the best route I could to save my M but ultimately it was her choice to D. And even though I'm D'd I'm trying to continue to DB in hopes she will hit rock bottom, being willing to make the changes necessary to R and we'll come back together. The waiting is so hard.

I'm pretty confused. WXW was in MBR watching a show. I went upstairs about 10pm knowing her show should be over. She was obviously crying. I climbed into my side of the bed as she got up and got ready for bed. As she was leaving the room she very gently and sweetly said good night. I said good night.

I'm trying to remember and implement my DB coaching sessions. So how is my current strategy working? Am I getting the desired results? I think I am.
What's my proof that it's working? Since 12.24 she has twice come to me telling me she loves me, she wants to start counseling, she wants us to remarry. She said she doesn't want me with another woman (which I find ironic since she's been seeing several other men)
But what has she done? What has she showed you? She has apologized for blowing up. She has been more gentle and sweet in her words, tones and actions. She left roses on the counter and a picture of a guy on her phone in what I believe are attempts to get my attention and make me jealous. She has showed jealousy over finding out I'm seeing someone.

Summary- I believe I am getting the desired results. I of course want more so I should not change my strategy. I must be patient, let the strategy work and let God work.