Respect is not required of the H (for Christians). However, love is...and honor and cherish. So yeah, it's missing.
I don't how we could honor a person if we did not respect him/her.
I am not up on your story, I just wanted to join in on this subject since I usually have a lot to say about a woman needing to respect her H in order to experience the loving feelings and desire for him.
I believe anytime there is a lack of respect from either spouse, it builds a foundation for more problems. I really don't how anyone is able to endure a daily relationship of disrespect in a M. I was a WW who disrespected my H, and if it had been him disrespecting me........I would have been out of here as fast as I could pack a bag. Ironic? Maybe. I have noticed something the LBS's have in common (at least the majority of them),and that is how they seem to tolerate disrespect from their S.
I understand in some cases where a woman may have several children and solely dependent on her H, (or stays b/c of religious reasons), etc., and that it may not be so easy to just pack a bag and leave. Putting that scenerio aside, it continues to baffle me why this tollerance seems to be so common among the LBS's. Respect/honor should be required in a MR, and people should not settle for less.
If we have the idea that our S is not required to respect us, would that not wash away our own self-respect and give the message that we are not worthy or valuable enough to be respected?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
