Shotgun - It wasn't a chuckle. It was a full on "couldn't catch my breath because it was so hilarious choking kind of laugh"...it went on and on.
At first, I thought you meant you filmed them together and put it on Facebook to "out them" - that was hilarious enough. Then, I realized that you innocently posted it when you had NO IDEA. For some reason, I thought about other people's reactions (W & OM) and almost died. On FB, for the world to see, you had innocently posted video of the two of them together - a secret thy were trying hard to keep. That just slayed me! My dear, trusting friend Shotgun - accidentally "outing" the cheaters.
MB, I wish we could go to a movie together when we're feeling down. The days are long and the nights are longer. Next time you feel like driving by, give me a call. We'll talk each other out of it. I haven't driven by yet, and hope I don't. That would be Torture with a capital T. I think if I saw her car at my house I'd have to do something I'd regret. So I stay away. I think I miss my house and garden as much as I miss W. Well, not really. I missed her so much yesterday it was a physical pain all day.
On to a new day. And I can't wait to hear what shotgun meant about your initials!
I would LOVE to go to a movie! What should we go see? . I do agree, the nights are VERY long. BTW, when I drive by, I'm not looking for HER because she doesn't live around here. I'm looking for HIM to see if he's home or if he went to see her. She lives about 5 hrs away from here (she lives really close to Ancaire....wonder if they know each other?). She wouldn't be here unless it's a weekend because of her work I guess. H is off different days though so he goes down there to see her more often than she comes here. Sad that I know that.
Unfortunately, I know exactly what you're talking about when you say that it causes you actual physical pain. I guess that's the feeling a broken heart causes. So much worse than when I broke my leg! Hang in there NYGal, we are all here for each other. We WILL get through this. I am here for you if you need me.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
So you see MB it is true that I am much more stupid than you and filmed the end of my marriage and posted it for the world to see. I have never bothered to take that post down though and I am not especially torn up about it. These events were inevitable and if it wasn't him it would have been another guy. I do have curiosity in the fact that the guy works in the same field as I, enjoys all of the same things, is about my size and is born a couple of weeks after me in the same year. W told me that we were exactly alike except that he was successful. Again doesn't bother me as I was trying to raise a special needs child. I did it very well though and he is very accomplished and talented. His social skills while not perfect have developed into an ability to fit into society very well and in that I take enormous pride.
Shotgun, I am not stupid, and NEITHER ARE YOU!!!! We were just very trusting and believed that our spouses meant it when they took marriage vows with us just like we meant it. We just didn't realize that they were going to loose their minds! At this time, they are both mentally ill and cannot be helped. They just don't realize it. It's kind of like when I was pregnant the first time. I was absolutely and undoubtedly positive that I was the only sane person in the world and EVERYONE else had lost their minds!!! It wasn't until after I had my daughter that I was able to look back over the previous 9 months and realize that I was the one that lost my mind and everyone else tried their best to deal with it until it was over. There's nothing you could have told me at the time that would have convinced me that I was the one having a problem and on an emotional roller coaster. Seriously, I really thought everyone in the world went crazy at the same time. I try to remind myself of this when I think about my H and his midlife crisis. I just can't imagine that if he could think clearly, that he would ever have done this. So, for now I will just believe him to be mentally ill and in need of help. The only problem is that HE is the only person that can help him. Little hard to tell a crazy person that they're crazy! So, for now I just try to get through it and pray for a good ending and some peace in my life.
BTW...you never did tell me why my initials are perfect.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
Can't Ancaire go take her out for you? TP her house maybe? Throw eggs at her car? Nails in her driveway? I don't know where OW lives, and I fantasize about following her home from work one night. She drives a green mini cooper, license plate... oh, I'd better not say!
Let's go see the Revenant. I hear it's "epic".
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I sincerely believe the mental illness theory. Nothing else could possibly explain this out-of-character behavior.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I do know where OW lives, but I dare not drive down there. I am better than that, I know I am. She is trash and doesn't deserve my time. I DO believe that! I think about her coming into H house while I was there and I just know I would never try to hurt someone like that. I am a better person than that. If he wants to be with OW, he is definitely trading down! Doesn't stop me from wishing she wasn't in my life though. I just wish she had more self esteem than to try to take a married man away from their spouse. I have wondered if Ancaire knows her though.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
Hey, but on the bright side, I went walking TWICE today for a total of 5.81 miles!! WooHoo!!! Oh, and let's not forget that I spent 3 minutes and 25 seconds on the elliptical machine. LOL! Why, oh why is that thing so evil? I can walk all day long, but can't do 5 minutes on elliptical machine without dying. I will get off this plateau and loose more weight if it kills me!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
I do not know any trashy wh*res from Taylor, TX. This I vow.
I cannot do anything to her right now, with my current legal troubles from the night I lost my mind. Maybe when I get this mess taken care of, though...
Listen ladies...I drove myself somewhere I absolutely SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN...found out something I didn't ever want to know...and LOST MY FREAKING MIND!!!
I know what I'm talking about when I tell you NOT to go driving by any X's house. You should listen to me. Just sayin'
I already stated that I have absolutely NO INTENTIONS OF DRIVING BY OW HOUSE. It just will not happen. Even if I lost my senses temporarily, I'm pretty sure I would have found them by the time I took the 5 hour drive to her house. I am sorry that I saw her at H's house when I did. And, that was NOT My doing. At the time, he claimed to want to be with me so I was at his house, not my fault she walked it. And, btw, I wouldn't want anyone to do anything to her anyway.
LOL, I don't think she wears the trashy wh*re sign across her chest when she goes out in public. She has family all over down there though. Taylor, Thrall, Cedar Park, Liberty Hill, & Pflugerville. Oh, and of course, here in the town where I live as well. UGH! My H used to live down there also. He lived in Liberty Hill. I used to drive down there to see him for lunch and then drive back home the same day. That drive used to not seem that long back then because I had something to look forward to. Sure wouldn't want to have to do it all the time now.
So what ever happened with your legal issues? I remember you had a court date but that was a while back. Haven't heard you mention it since. I hope everything went well for you.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
I don't even know where my H is staying. Is that weird?
I know that OW lives in London. Maybe one of them will move to the other's city and they'll move in together. Who knows?
Yesterday I bumped into someone that H used to work with when we first met, 18 years ago now. I was able to have a nice, very open and honest, chat with her about how things have been going these past few years with my H.
Talking to her really helped me see how the seeds of it all were there, in his own character and personality, all those years ago. It's just that at a certain point I feel that he chose to/felt he had to turn away from the more wholesome side of life to go down the self destruct route. But then I would say that, wouldn't I?
Anyone seen 'The Hateful Eight'? Quite fancy that too, along with Leonardo's latest.
. I do agree, the nights are VERY long. BTW, when I drive by, I'm not looking for HER because she doesn't live around here. I'm looking for HIM to see if he's home or if he went to see her. She lives about 5 hrs away from here (she lives really close to Ancaire....wonder if they know each other?). She wouldn't be here unless it's a weekend because of her work I guess. H is off different days though so he goes down there to see her more often than she comes here. Sad that I know that. 
