I want to run into her. That's the problem. This has all been so odd. For 2 months she tried to decide which one of us to pick. Then she chose the OW. But then she said she has "major concerns" about OW. And she still loves me. Or so she said. Now no contact. I just don't know where we stand and it's making me nervous. The prevailing sentiment is just move on and GAL. But I keep thinking of her all the time.
I don't know if I'm just stubborn or what, but I am having such trouble moving on. I still feel a deep connection to her. I don't know if I'm deluding myself or what. I need a long term strategy. Any vets out there who can show me the road? I know it's what I said above... move on and GAL. But my goal is to reconcile. What do I do?????
A lot of it is about going through the motions. I don't think you shouldn't expect be able to move on yet, you're fresh into experiencing a crisis in a 10 year long relationship and of course those bonds are not severed in a week or a month, but you practice independence. That's why you GAL. It helps keep you busy and distracted, and the added benefit is that you don't seem moping and needy. One of these days, you're going to laugh and realize that you weren't feeling sad or wistful at that moment, and that you felt actual happiness.
The point is to find yourself and live on your own as a full and complete person. That's what is attractive to others, and to your W. That's what you were when you met. Somewhere along the way, she lost sight of who you are, and maybe you did, too.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
