Please convince me that couples who have been through separations have it worse than us who seem to be in an endless loop of frustration. I occasionally say "it appears that couples in WAS situations seem to be in a better place when they post on the board". Am I wrong? There's a whole group of us who have been maintaining the peace and stability and are getting nowhere. Is it the "peace and stability" that prevents our SOs from changing? My C says it is.

I think a lot of us "reasonable folk" think that my posts about "shock and awe" are just nuts, but I've yet to have a compelling reason that it doesn't work. I don't know who to trust anymore. If I do have to unleash some "pain" into the relationship, I better be damn sure I administer it correctly.


Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time -Steven Wright