Zues, all my husband keeps saying is "I tried for years".
Looking back, i think he did after kids were born, but it was at a point I was just so angry and resentful and hormonal and sleep deprived.
Maybe this is Karma? Me experiencing with him what he was with me after kids were born. I never would have left though.
I know that you are right because he told me something along the lines that he needed to see if he could handle being separated from kids and I. I found this very insulting. It still bothers me because it showed that his needs surpassed the trauma it would have on the kids and the burden it placed on my parents. IT was also him making a decision without any discussion based on what he wanted to do as an individual instead of making a collaberative decision as a family (something that I felt frequently plagued our relationship and left me resentful)
