Hi SC,

Hugs to you! {{{{{(((((SecondChances)))))}}}}} I, too, wish you had someone to play with .

Yes, things are proceeding very well for me. Thanks for your suggestions. I am interested in the ring you mention. Since I doubt I will ever walk voluntarily into a boutique that sells them, I will have to shop on line. If the ring has to be sized, I'll just get several in different sizes and colors. I just wonder if it would cause my H to become dependent on it in some way, though.

Garters and stockings sound fun. Even if it does nothing for him, I think I would like it for me. I have to be careful though and not scare my H. I have started undressing in front of him, flashing him, providing him the visuals that I have since learned HD men or even men in general like--something I did not do prior to reconciliation--and he didn't know what to make of it. He response was, "That doesn't bother you anymore???" I asked him if it bothered him and if he wanted me to stop doing it. He said, "No, but it is so different from the old you, I will need time to get used to it. You are such a completely different person now."

I wonder if the OW was like that and it is difficult for him to have me doing it now. I don't know. His response above kept me from trying Operation:Smile this past weekend. I think he might have fainted if I had. Maybe the OW pulled Operation:Smile on him. He is still processing me as the initiator of ML. That is a new major event in and of itself because I never used to initiate.

Oh well. Gots lots to work through, but should have fun trying.

LG

A blessed and happy marriage is a union of two forgivers and Him, because...a cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12.