I've been through this for 18 months after bomb dropped... He throw the wedding ring to me and moved out of our apartment last June. He would say all the mean things to me and pushes for divorce. Blamed me for everything and almost had me convinced that our marriage is piece of junk.
I pray for him and had support from campus crusade here in Taiwan; I worked on myself for a year and am stronger now. You may understand how difficult it is to get over the hurt from his affair and deal with his antics at the same time (I know that I'm not alone, I study a lot and learn a lot from your posts, thank you and thank you !!)
I'm studying the material that Cadet recommended and I will keep that in mind -> "h, I'm sorry you feel that way or having a bad day" and then walk away. He would apologize every time he went to far but still he will spew maybe within a month or two.
He had money spent thus he had debt; I'm safe with my financial, I'm working and I have my own deposit.
By the way, he started to complain his job and his colleague, which he blame me in controlling his working hours before, I recall the HeartsBlessing mentioned during the tail end of replay, her husband complained about his job. I understand it is not healthy when you're too focusing on the stages of his crisis, but sometimes to know he is progressing will be a bit relief.
Job, thank you for the article shared - why they run. That helps me in understanding his running behavior; also I have compassionate for what he's been through.
