WW, My Addiction, Patience, and HOPE

[trumpet]

Sandi,

Thank you - I think you pieced together what I've been feeling and what my wife has been feeling the last few days. I'm not looking to talk about the R. I was being overly cold to her, and I think over the last day and a half we have settled in a bit, where I'm more natural, but more selective in my words to her. We spent the day together, watching some football, eating lunch, and taking family to S12's futsal game.

I've given her some compliments today - her hair looked great, and her complexion has been better than it's been in years - she's been working out hard, and lost 15 lbs. already. On a strict diet - this is the first time in 15 years she's going gung-ho on her weight and health. I was witholding some of that, and it felt natural to give her those - she deserves it. the new trumpet knows that he needs to compliment her more often than he did. I need to show her I care.

I was the guy that used to say I had 'unconditional love' for her, but that was just fooey, since I had the addiction. Love is an action in my life more than it ever has.

Geogia Bulldog said something that stuck with me - since we both have an addiction, I might need to be a bit more complimentary to her, since from the looks of it she isn't contacting OM. I'm going to lay off the NC letter for now, and show her I care a bit more than I was. I need to at least show her I'm a kind, caring trumpet, rather than the cold trumpet I was when she was actively talking to OM.

At least, from one day of it, it's paid off. I'm still letting her be during the workdays. And still reading books. We'll see if the resentment/anger goes down with a little effort on my part. Trying something different - like MWD stresses in DR.