Hello, IP! I was thinking about you today - new real insights, just sympathy and a hope that you're doing as well as you can.
You're still so early in this situation. I can't believe anyone has the nerve to expect you to "move right along" and be okay, would you? I think that's got more to do with the emotional immaturity of the person with the expectation than it does anyone else.
I was lucky enough to be raised in a fairly divorce free environment, but I went to school with friends whose parents D, and I could tell it was hard, hard, hard! I always felt so badly for families that it happened to. I feel even worse now.
Take as long as you need to recover, as long as you're recovering. This journey is definitely two steps forward, and one back. It's hard, it's heartbreaking, and it takes as long as it takes. Every person's recovery will differ from another's. There is no timeline to "feeling all better".
I think people feel badly because they don't know what to say. Instead of learning, they'd rather [i[you[/i] felt better, so they wouldn't have to wonder. We live in an immature society - me, me, me! Just let it go.
Be good to yourself. Read something funny. Take a bubble-bath. Give yourself a facial - just do something nice for you.
