Huddy - You don't have to date until you're ready. Like you, I was really worried about what on earth I was going to find out there. I kept saying I was going to go join a bereavement group - because I only wanted to date widowers.
Finally, my mind is clearing. There are plenty of people like us out there. Plenty of folks who understand commitment and honoring vows who have been left by someone completely undeserving of what we have to offer.
There is some comfort in being a "twosome" - companionship, someone to hang with, the "obvious" (LOL) - but I don't plan to date anyone unless I get to the point I am perfectly fine being completely on my own. I want to be stronger, healthier, more able to weather anything that comes my way.
I'm happy to use this forum to chat with people until that day comes, if it ever does. I take comfort in knowing that there are fine men still out there...just look at the wonderful guys we have here!
Maybe that will help a bit? Good people exist.
You are not running out of time. You have plenty of time.
